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  The Timing of Telling My Parents My College Plans.

  by WeatherLover in

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  i know that at some point i have to tell my parents that i'm planning to go to college.

  i basically have two options:.

  1. tell them early.

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  My daughter started college as a commuter at age 17 when I was still a JW. Her faded unbelieving father and I were committed to paying for all costs including commuting.

  The day our daughter turned 18, she put her bags by the front door, informed us that she had taken out a loan for the co-ed dorm and was moving out. This was exceedingly painful for me at the time, and our relationship was strained for ten years after. We are absolutely fine now.

  As a parent, I would vote for giving your parents a head's up, but only you can decide if you are ready to go it alone if they kick you out.

  Wishing you all the best,

  Diane
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  A quick Biblical question....

  by dubstepped in

  1. watchtower
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  my wife and i were talking about how religions claim to be directed by god, yet god never seemed to let any of them know about the danger of sexual predatora to children.

  the it hit me, does the bible say anything on the subject?

  is there a thou shalt not diddle kids scripture?

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  David-Jay, thank you for your kind words.
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  A quick Biblical question....

  by dubstepped in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  my wife and i were talking about how religions claim to be directed by god, yet god never seemed to let any of them know about the danger of sexual predatora to children.

  the it hit me, does the bible say anything on the subject?

  is there a thou shalt not diddle kids scripture?

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  Sail Away

  Dubstepped, the comment triggered my PTSD. No judgement against you. Just reality.

  So if I don't concede to your bullying, you believe the best approach is to judge me?

  but if you do care to understand others here's your chance.
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  A quick Biblical question....

  by dubstepped in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  my wife and i were talking about how religions claim to be directed by god, yet god never seemed to let any of them know about the danger of sexual predatora to children.

  the it hit me, does the bible say anything on the subject?

  is there a thou shalt not diddle kids scripture?

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  Sail Away

  Is there a thou shalt not diddle kids scripture?

  What a horrible way to phrase this question. Clearly, you have never been sexually assaulted, nor has anyone you love.

  PS Maybe there is time for you to rethink and edit your question on behalf of those who might be triggered by it. Of late, nearly every time I come to this site, I ask myself, "Just what we're you thinking?"
  
  
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  So, the Womens March ... What Is It For?

  by Simon in

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  it seems like mobilizing after the election, which seems pointless.

  i keep hearing demands for equal rights but don't understand what rights they are missing exactly.. normally a march is to show the support (and potential votes) for a cause, but ... votes for what?

  ... and the election happened already.. is anyone else confused?

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  In answer to the OP, this is what the Women's March is all about:

  https://medium.com/@dinachka82/about-your-poem-1f26a7585a6f#.2u8qzmywp
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  Wife is Awake

  by freemindfade in

  1. jw
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  following the news of stuckinarut2, over the past few months my wife has completely mentally woken up.

  i've been meaning to post but haven't had the time.

  i saw stuckins post and i figured i'd add my news too.

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  Sail Away

  How great is this! ! ! Fantastic news for you and your wife, freemindfade!
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  Forever Young

  by AllTimeJeff in

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  hey everyone.

  so this is what 10 years out feels like.

  employed, paying bills, and watching the slow demise of planet earth.

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  Jeff, nice to see you here! The indoctrination of young minds that you describe was very much my experience. None of my family ever became JWs, but my father accepted a study for the family at a very unstable and vulnerable time for us all.

  I was nine years old. By the time I was 10, I wanted to get baptized. I just wanted to do what was right. My non-believing dad finally allowed me to get baptized when I was 16. I had already spent several summers "temporary pioneering" by then (75 hours a month). I turned down several college scholarships to "full-time pioneer" (100 hours a month) in the rurals of North Dakota. I was married to a MS by age 19.

  All in all I was in for 42 years. It was a painful, slow awakening for me, but I walked away when I was 52. I'm so impressed and happy for those who figure things out at a much younger age. Enjoy your freedom!

  Diane
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  HULU's - The Path

  by babygirl30 in

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  this show is a.m.a.z.i.n.g!!!!.

  ...anyone that has been in a strict religion.

  ...anyone that has been in a high control cult or movement/organization.

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  I was impressed with season one. They were able to portray the cult atmosphere accurately, sometimes without words. For example, the total lack of boundaries was depicted by people in authority bursting uninvited into a room (even a bedroom) with a closed door. Apparently, there are no locks at The Path's compound.
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  Mom died, How and When I found out

  by 3rdgen in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  hi friends,.

  it's been awhile since i've been talkative.

  thought i'd give you an account of my latest family dysfunction.. a brief backstory is that i am an only child whose parents were born in jw's.

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  3rdgen, I'm so terribly sorry for the pain you are experiencing. I know what it is like to be a caregiver for an abusive, aging parent. It does drain your last bit of strength, both phyically and emotionally.

  Just know that you did the best you could by your mother, and please try not take her clearly deranged behavior personally. Mental illness and dementia can be among the most demanding illnesses on the family. JW crap only adds to the pain of the situation.

  Please take good care of yourself,

  Diane
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  How long does it take to get a response from the branch office?

  by Homer notsimpson in

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  does any one have any experience with writing to the branch office?

  i know they're busy, but while reading through the shepherd textbook, it says to write to them quite a few times.

  so if a body of elders write to the branch office, whats the usual wait time for a response?

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  Sail Away

  Back in the days of the Isaiah book, I wrote in to question their dates/timeline being off. I got a 6-page letter back which defended their erroneous dates. My then P.O. asked if I understand the answer. I said yes, meaning I understood that it was B.S.

  I later wrote in because my husband was a permanently "inactive" JW. They wanted me to appoint a JW as my Healthcare Agent on my DPA. I wanted to be able to write on the document that my Healthcare Agent was only to make decisions regarding "non-blood medical management", and my husband was to make all other decisions. Of course, my elders couldn't advise me directly. I watied nearly a year with no answer. I sent a copy of the original letter with a new cover letter saying that this was an urgent matter.

  One afternoon within a few weeks, I got a call from Bethel asking for Sister Sail Away. It scared the hell out of me. He gave me the go ahead for my plan. I still wonder if they just didn't want to put their answer in writing.